Keep your love alive

“Gosh! Today, I really regret marrying you!” The words were out and it had a cataclysmic impact on Priya. Befuddled, she sank on the sofa, stunned to the core. Prashanth, the man she had fallen in love with and married amidst ruthless opposition from her family had spoken these words to her. Prashanth who had relentlessly pursued, wooed and professed undying, true love to her had cast her away like a torn handkerchief with his words. She had by now even forgotten what started their fight in the first place. But what was the need to think in extremes, she contemplated. Did he really feel that way or was it just a response to a provocation? In spite of hearing the clichéd, ‘I love you’ many a time, in the two years that she had been with him, there had been times when she had wondered, where does the so called love go? 

To quote psychologist, Leo Buscaglia: “Love is trusting, accepting and believing, without guarantee. It is for mutual revealing and sharing. It is spontaneous and craves expression through joy, beauty, truth and tears.” It is indeed nice to hear phrases like ‘Love is blind’ or ‘Love knows no barriers’ or ‘Love is never having to say you are sorry’, but how application-oriented are these? A few factors that can affect love are everyday tensions, pressures, health, fidelity etc. Here are a few tips to help you work on your love relationship:

• Don’t expect perfection. 
• Be flexible. 
• Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings.
• This pertains to sex too.Never take your partner for granted. Allow him/her to grow.

All that counts in life is an intent, so towards that intent, love needs to be worked upon. Work on keeping the romance alive, show your feelings. Only by giving you truly receive. 

 The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com