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  Life   Health  08 Oct 2017  Being too nice could have a negative impact on you

Being too nice could have a negative impact on you

THE ASIAN AGE
Published : Oct 8, 2017, 1:44 pm IST
Updated : Oct 8, 2017, 1:44 pm IST

Learn to put your own needs first.

Representational Image. (Photo: Pixabay)
 Representational Image. (Photo: Pixabay)

Are you too nice? That may not be a good thing.

You tend to overlook your own wants and needs and feel anxious and upset. In most cases, people form a pattern of saying yes ,when they really want to say no to doing things.

Intentionally or unintentionally, people may take advantage of you being too nice and may not thing twice about dumping more work on you or even taking credit for it.

As much as you may try, you can't please everyone. This behaviour of trying to keep everyone happy is often identified as lacking "assertiveness" or wanting to avoid conflict, according to a report by the Metro.

Entrepreneurs say being too nice in the workplace is a bad idea and hinders your ability to work effectively within a team or as a leader, the report revealed.

 "Generally I have a big problem with people being too nice at work these days. It seems almost everybody wants to avoid conflict, and are simply too polite rather than being totally transparent and honest," entrepreneur Paul Oberschneider told the Metro. "Communicating directly and even engaging in honest productive conflict can create better workplaces and better performance," he recommended.

Owner of online stationery company The Card Gallery, Lisa Forde learned through personal experience to improve decision-making skills in a fair way, without being too nice and with more self-confidence. "Being more self-assured has helped me grow the business, having the confidence to take bigger actions which have led to bigger successes and increased sales," she told the Metro.

Here are some solutions to change your pattern as stated in the report.

* Find a better way to manage your time and help others around you to do the same, before you overwhelm yourself.

* While it is good to put others first from time to time, realise you need a balance and to need to put yourself ahead to get fairer results for everyone.

* Avoid bottling up your emotions and instead express your concerns in a fair and clear manner.

Tags: workplace, behaviour, anxiety, mental health, health and wellbeing, psychology