It’s complicated: Stay calm and let the flirting pass

In our world of today, there are several anger triggers threatening to send your state of zen over a cliff. But there is nothing more annoying than seeing someone brazenly trying to flirt with your special someone — like you don’t even matter. Yes, it’s completely normal for you to want to smack that person in the face but the thing is, should you? And we’re asking this as a philosophical question... not because there’s CCTV around. Hell, that video could get on YouTube and that pestilence called ‘neighbourhood kids’ will make sure the entire apartment block knows about the day you upset mental balance.   

There’s actually a video on Twitter called ‘Bootbae’, which shows an over-protective girlfriend using her velvet knee-high boot to block a model from walking up to her boyfriend at a fashion show. But to be fair to the model, the three are at what’s known as a ‘date auction’. Yes, our times are strange.

So, how do we stop ourselves from becoming an embarrassing meme on the Internet?  

First, assess the situation. While we all like the idea of having admirers, very few are actually interested in encouraging in-bound attention. Which means, if your partner is not interested and is just being polite, take his or her lead and relax. Move away at the first opportunity or include more people in the conversation.

If you are genuinely annoyed at the person’s cheek then have a discussion in private with your other half and tell them that the episode bothered you. In a solid relationship, a partner will understand.

But the best tactic is to always remain calm because remember, in such a situation fury conveys insecurity. It makes the other person believe they have a hold on you and more importantly, creating a scene during a situation that can be interpreted in several ways, can only lead to major misunderstanding between you and your partner.  

But what if someone is trying to hit on you? Imagine that special moment at a party ruined by a bottle to the head or the caviar to the face! Would you want your spouse resorting to violence? Aggression, dear readers, is always a bad idea and if you feel an ex is trying to cosy up step one is stop getting flustered. He or she is an ex for a reason. Today, many are friends with an ex and often invite them home for big parties. To avoid spillage of food or wine, simply avoid inviting potential bombs to social gatherings. This is a problem that needs deleting at source!

The world around us is a complex web of developing emotions and leftover angst. It takes a mighty bit of effort to stay sane but it takes a small bag of tricks to keep a bottle away from someone’s face. Let peace rule!