According to experts, talking about porn, or watching it with your partner can actually make a relationship healthier.
Speaking to Mail Online, Dr Ari Tuckman says that open conversations about why you or your partner use porn, rather than shaming or blaming each each other, can help to build intimacy in a relationship.
Porn is available everywhere, which has led to a huge controversy about whether or not it is addictive and poisonous to relationships.
Instead, he suggests that conflicts over porn use often have deeper underlying root causes, and productive conversations about porn can help to improve your love life.
According to a data compiled by MBA, and republished by Gizmodo last year, nearly 30,000 people watch porn every second.
Here are a few reasons as to why watching porn with your partner is a good idea
It is a shared experience: Any time a couple are sharing something, including a sexual experience, they are investing in the longevity of the relationship.
Insight into partner’s fantasies: Some people are naturally shy about discussing their sexual fantasies with their partners. Other’s do not even know what actually turns them on. Porn, helps a lot of couples in realising what is it they want from each other.
It can speed up foreplay: In a world which is governed by the need for speed, the term “quickie” can take on a new significance. Also, having a child may often mean that you are falling short of time and need to expedite your intimate moments. According to New Scientist, porn clips help in arousal within 30 seconds with men reaching maximum arousal in about 11 minutes and women in about 12.
Shatters myth that you will only be attracted to your partner: It is possible that your partner and you might, at times, need to fantasise about someone else, during a long term relationship. Watching porn together allows you to see your partner’s arousal at the image of another woman for what it is — a biological response to a stimulus. There’s no need to feel threatened and insecure.
May lessen need to act out on sexual desires outside of relationship: Home can be the place where sexual needs and fantasies are met. If couples can get down and dirty together, it may obviate the need for partners to seek gratification elsewhere.
However, Dr Tuckman adds that not all couples experience the same kinds of problems in relation to porn though, he says.
According to him, gay men are more likely to talk about the porn they like early on in their relationships, while for heterosexual couples, it’s more of a ‘struggle and source of strife.’
