Communication and trust is key for any happy relationship. But this is applicable only nine out of 10 times. It is not necessary to tell you partner everything, and some things are best kept to yourself. If revealing a certain bit of information serves no real purpose to the relationship but only ends up hurting your partner, it is better to not share that information, reported Bustle.
Total honesty is good on paper, but its best to spare your partner of some information to keep up the peace and harmony in the relationship. It is essential to discuss what is bothering you, and other heavy topics as well. Here are a few topics you may probably want to avoid to maintain a harmonious bond with your partner.
Any leftover feelings for an ex or old love
Having complicated feelings for an ex or even some residual affection is normal. Some people are still recovering from previous relationships and some even wonder what their ex is up to. But this is not something you tell your current partner. They may assume that you probably want to get back with the ex and possibly harbour resentment over it.
What you feel about their family
Unless your partner has a very toxic situation, there is no need to share minor dislikes about their family. After all, they are family and no matter if they really have those flaws or not, your partner will not want to hear about it. When you are in a serious relationship, their family becomes your family. For the sake of a peaceful relationship, keep the comments to yourself.
Finding someone else attractive
From time to time, it is normal to feel attraction to other human beings. It is a natural human reaction and nothing to be ashamed of. But telling this to your partner will only result in jealousy, insecurity, awkwardness and hurt feelings. If you have a small crush, it is fine; just don’t tell your partner. As you have no plans of acting on the crush, the information is best kept to yourself.
Opinions about their friends
As with family, it is also advisable to not voice your real opinions about their friends. Unless the said friend is doing something very offensive or detrimental, don’t say anything. You can also voice your opinion in a less-toxic manner if you really can’t get over the friend’s behaviour.
Your family’s opinion about them
Only in an ideal world will your parents completely approve of your partner. If your parents or siblings have something hurtful to say about your partner, it is not necessary to share that piece of information. It can dent the relationship between your partner and your family. In the mean time, you should not just shield your partner, but stand up for them against your family too, at times.
